The New ERA Beauty Contest

When the whole world is fbing and the craze of modelling is at its peak, the new generation is heading to what no one knows of. Everyone wants to be popular, everyone wants to be eye candy, everyone wants to look fair and pretty, and thats how you are forgetting your orginality. The new era of fb, when every page wanting popularity conducts different beauty contest, good looking men, good looking women.

Social networking has increased the demands of photos, poses and photography with all editing, everyone wants to look perfect , every pic has to be nice and glossy, there is no derth of camera men either thanks to smart phones and dslrs increased demands. Do we know where are we heading to and what are we making out of the youngsters. The idea of social networking was to get in touch with old ones and for extroverts like me it was to meet new friends, we all have this new craze to show out what we did where we went what we wore how we looked. And our judgement about everyone has got limited to how they look in the pics, how well they dressed , how well there hair was. And what about someone who looked to simple, who looked dark who wasnt too well dressed they aint nice. We comment looking hot, looking cute, looking cool, and what some speco did he appeal u na they didnt catch your attention. have we forgotten that never judge someone by there looks and there clothes. We find comments hotty, naughty, sexy written by strangers are we looking forward for such cheap comments for ourselves or our family. We've got our family and near and dear people who might not like reading such comments on our pics. lets excise caution.

parents posting there new born kids pic for competition like baby of the month, cute baby contest, every kid is cute and good looking how can one judge its so disheartning to see grown up's with grey matter posting there little kids pics for such contests. lets learn to accept what we have what we are and we are gifted with it. 

Cutest couple contest how can a couple be juged about its cutness based on how they look in a pic, isnt it the compatibility that matters and not just there looks. I see contest like best love story, best love letter how do we guage someones feelings there love based on there words alone, when we have no idea about what the couples journey has been how theyve supported each othere in there thick and thin times. Some may be bad with words doesnt mean there journey is any bad or they dont love there partner like the one who could write or express well.lets enjoy social networking for the cause of socialness and not ones individuality. 

We all lock our pics in our profile who might be using them or misuse them anytime. did we notice uploading our pics on such forums are easily making them accessible for social misuse. once done we cannot do anything from crying and getting sympathy from others. its high time when i you and everyone understand this and get out of the whole system of putting our pictures on stake publically.

if its love its meant to stay

LOVE a very special word in everyones life. Everyone looks out for it, some are fortunate to find it easily and some have to wait a long to get it. however its made for all, some think love is perfect. love is not perfect, it does not have color, no age barrier, no specifications of gender, it does not have shape, it has no height , it has no weight. its just love. its a feeling which can surely come for anyone, and it stays. love is meant to stay if it doesnt that means it is not love. love is blind, it only come to stay forever. love is when the mother touches the kid when he is asleep, when mother is up all night to see her child when he has fever, love is when mother prays for her childs victory, love is when the father works hard to gift his child the first cycle, love is when the sibbling fight over of a cup of cake,love is when the fiance is all up night waiting for a call from him, love is when the wife fasts all day for her husbands long life. love is love we dont need any defination to prove it to say it its love. love who you have, for what they are. love will come you dont have to go and look for it. believe in the power of love and youll soon be gifted with it. 

Medical Surprise

"Open you mouth, say a",
"let me look at your nose",
"turn right i want to see your ear, now left".
"You have Flu, it will be there for a while, unfortunately there is no medication for it, you just take Crocin for three days and in spite of that if you still have fever then ill put you on antibiotics."
"ok doctor" was my reply, i was highly disappointed as i had taken in the pain to travel, for an hour during the peak hour in the evening, waited for my turn to come patiently and then going back without any prescription.I was disappointed, for not having any problem. I was disappointed that I was sent back without any prescription, all I had to was have crocin and wait and watch if the problem still persists.
Few days later, i was down with  pain in my lower abdomen, "ouch" it hurted me hard, oh it was late in the evening i didn't know what to, lazy to do anything i just took a pain killer and called up a friend, he asked me for the symptoms and suggested to get a sonography.
Sonography i thought my friend had gone mad, but hearing to a doctor was must so i pulled up myself and forced myself to go to the hospital. I was cursing myself all the while, went to the department, the nurse looked and me and enquired if i had eaten something in the morning, i said no, she asked me to go and have water and come and gave me a chit to pay in the billing section for the test. taking out the biggest of all the Gandhi notes 1000 and adding another 100 to it i wondered and prayed "bhagwan, iss test mein kuch to nikale nahi to barbad hue mere 1100 rupee". i went to the canteen got myself a bottle of water and forced myself to drink it down and went back. the nurse checked she said the water hasn't reached the bladder, wait for a while , walk a little and come back when i really wanted to pee. with a great effort and a restless hour of moving back and front i managed to finally create an adequate amount of pressure. and went to the room to get the testing done, when the doctor started examining, i was all anxious about what it was looking like, as it was my first sonography test. The doctor continued testing and at the end  said, there looks like a small stone in your left kidney. It is smaller in size nothing to worry much have good amount of water and itll be fine. Ah hearing that bought a smile to my face, ah at last my 1100 rupees was worth it.
Tragedy of life, when we have no ailments and still spend money we find it funny and not worth spending it, but when we  find a problem and have paid for it . sad but the truth. lets learn to change out thought and appreciate life when there is no problem and we even have to pay price to rule it out.

still single at 30

so you still single, dont you think you should get married now, your age is running what are you upto, etc etc etc are the questions raised to those who are still single at 30. Marriage is still a compulsion in the 21th century in our society. A women or man who ever it might be,it still is a compulsion and if not married early in age, they are over loaded with these questions. why is the society still so compulsive about marriage is beyond my understanding. if a girl or a guy not married for long its not the family who is worried the "SOCIETY" where we live has a problem.

The girl not married till late twenties or in her thirties  the society doesn't think oh she must not be finding a right partner, there thinking is oh there must be something wrong with the girl, she must be having an affair, her parents are reluctant, what is the society problem, the girl is independent, earning on her own, supporting her family, has her own ambition, if she has that then also its a pain to the society parents have given too much of a liberty to there kids.

For the other gender whom we think it would be much easier to stay single for, no its not a easy go for them either. the society doesn't spare them, oh the guy must be having a live in relationship with some girl, he must already be married not telling his parents, he must not be interested in girls. Many a time the guys are so over burdened by the family that they find the first opportunity to run abroad and be happy and visit less frequently.

What is the SOCIETIES problem with singles. Singles are happy, they don't worry  anyone, they are independent and helping and supportive to there friends and family. stop burdening them with these questions and let them breath.

Marriage is a no more a kids play let people have there way of life and a life partner of there choice. Relationships and marriages would last longer if it no more is they are forced to label them and be handled independently by individuals who want to get into it.

correspondence love

Love with a man in olive green makes you travel from the snow clad mountains in Jammu to the sea shore in southern point at Kanyakumari and from Rann of Kutch in west to the scenic  beauty of the beautiful rainy areas in the east. the olive greener job is not so easy, he is on job 24*7. He wakes up when everyone's sleeping and sleeps only once everyone falls asleep. Months he works tirelessly with out leave. Few are his holidays in which he falls asleep. now in this kind of a routine how does a olive greener maintain a girl friend? Difficult question however the answer is not simple. He still manages, day of tiresome work starting with pt at 5 in the morning with a long days slog which ends only at night, some times six sometimes seven, or further delaying the time to return home. the little time he gets the number of tasks are lots, finishing his homework which he gets along, dinner and then the time for family and finally comes the turn for the girl friend. yes there comes the time when she waits the whole day for his call to end her day with his voice. The sweetest voice, and while talking the tired man in semi sleep condition even dozes off, this pisses off the lady a lot but she still holds her temper knowing his schedule. then comes birthdays, anniversaries or festive which celebrates without him, not because he doesn't want to be there because he cant be there due to the call of the duty. Either it be peace or field he is busy all the time. The olive greener are not just busy with guns all the time but even with pen and paper which occupies there majority of the time.

Now the question comes about correspondence love? what does it mean with this busy schedule crises of time all the time how does he still manage to love and be with the girl he loves and pleases her. Its not easy to wait for months to meet him, just like a correspondence course  where you wait and kill the whole year and attend to your exams, that's how a olive greener lovers condition is like. She cribs she cries but rare are the moments when he is around to wipe her tears. Rare are the times when she gets to hug him or be in his arms. She waits patiently loosing her patience times and regaining her patience. Praying all day and night for his safety just like your exam results. Mostly distant and rarely near still she trusts him and lets him travel far, deep in the jungle , up in the mountain hill , remote villages with least facilities in the country or the crowded city. Tension comes before appearing exams that's how tension comes when he is about to come, the nervousness is just like how you are going to attend your exam what do i wear, how do i look, did i gain weight god am i looking good or not, but the results are always sweet as he never cares for what you look how much did you gain nor what did  you wear, he just cares for the twinkle in your eyes, the care in your deed and love in you for him. being with him is just like attending a paper, how much ever time you get its always less. and as the time starts slipping away the heart beat increases. However the years pass and you graduate and in the same way you graduate from girl friend and boy friend to man and wife, but this doesn't end here, the cycle continues and correspondence becomes a integrated part of there lives.

that thing called pride

"oucch", he said while she was pining the commendation card to his uniform, by mistake the sharp end of the pin had pricked him.This was the first time since marriage that Avi had joined back to work and Maya had joined him in the unit. For the first time she payed attention to all the medals that were there on his chest, very colorful she thought, and left it there without asking as he screamed again "Maya, I am getting late darling". Her thought was disturbed and she landed into reality. Finally waved bye bye to Avi for office.

There was lot she wanted to talk to him about and ask him about the colorful medals and the golden color medal which he wore that brightened his uniform. She was lost in her thoughts and tried googling it, but google also couldnt help her much she didnt know how to find the answer about them as she didnt want to wait till Avi came back. She went around surfing and lost the track of time.

Maya and Avi were married twenty days back, it was an arrange marriage. There's was no different marriage, from a very typical arrange marriage, both came from the conservative family where there families decided about there wedding and where they saw each other only twice before wedding, once when both t t the families were meeting and second time when they were getting engaged.They hardly knew each other and now they were forced to stay with each other. The grew up in the conservative families where pre marital groom and bride talking to each other wasn't taken as a good sign and hence they couldn't know about each others liking dislike much.

Maya was a Science graduate with a B.Ed degree, and married immediately on the completion of her course. Avi was in a boys school till his 12th standard and there after he joined NDA and immediately after commissioning he got posted to Siachen and even before he completed his field tenure his family had found the prospective match for him and sent Maya's photo to him. Avi didn't know much about Maya but there was something about her which made him want her and unable to look out for any excuses he said a yes for this proposal.

The next leave he went on, the second day he went with his family to see the girl and within a week he got engaged. They could barely exchange glance or talk to each other. The first time he had heard her was post marriage when after the bidai they all came to his home and the bride was getting a introduction about a all the members of the home, and near and dear relatives. As each day passed they were getting to know each other better, and having spent her honey moon along with him at the bay in sun, sand and the sea "GOA" , Avi and Maya had just reported to the unit just two days earlier so that they could settle the home at the earliest.

This was the first day when she had seen Avi in Uniform. She was just mesmerized by how handsome he looked in uniform. The aura that he held in uniform and how good she felt standing next to him. Coming from a civil background and having no knowledge about the defense she would find herself lost when he would introduce her to someone. The whole new culture came to her as shock. When they entered the unit for the first time, there vehicle was stopped at the gate, the couple was asked to get down and the whole unit was crowded up there to welcome the newly married. Everyone congratulated the new couple a and Avi was handed a cycle and the lady was asked to sit on the on the cycle handle in front and ride it till there house which Avi had already taken before marriage. She was awe stuck seeing the openness which she had never experienced and had gone red with shyness. The other shocker to her came to her the evening before during there welcome party when they were asked to sing together and dance together. This all was too new to Maya, the openness of the place made her free like a bird, she was still to discover a lot about the culture. She lost the track of time, when there was a knock on the door, she walked towards the door wondering who could it be. On opening the door she found Avi at the door, surprised she stood there thinking something. Avi, just smiled saying I am back. She looked at the watch and realized the time was already quarter past two, and Avi was there as he had promised to be there at the earliest. He asked her to get ready soon as they had to go for lunch and shop a lot, for setting the army house into home a sweet home. Excited they were together to start a family life together.

Lunch followed by shopping the household stuff from market, and then dinner and exhausted were they returned back to the home. Finally it was night and with no strength left to anything else, and sleep no were near they laid on the bed talking to each other. it was then the right time she thought to ask him about t the colorful ribbons on his chest and golden shining medal on his uniform. She asked, "Avi, can i ask you something", "yes" came the reply. "Avi what are colorful ribbons on your uniform and what does that golden medal with army chief commendation written signify". Avi laughed, and her innocence and replied her back the grey white grey symbolizes that i served in siachen, the one in orange with two lines (green and white) signifies my service in J and K and the one in blue color with white peaks signifies higher altitude, and the golden medal that you see is a medal received from army chief its called commendation card". Maya was absorbing all the information he was giving her.She amazed at Avi's bravery, then she shooted her next question," was it very cold in Siachen?" Avi didn't mind answering her questions infact she was enjoying her doubts "yes it was very cold, sometime the temperature dropped down to -40degree's." Maya was admiring him for his bravery to have seen all these things at such a young age. Then she asked him many questions on how did you live there, what did you eat, how did you cook and all the questions that kept coming in her mind and in the mean time Avi opened his laptop and showed her few pictures he had clicked there Maya was so thrilled to see them and so excited. Avi was patient all the while answering her questions and was l loving answering her as he could see the excitement in her eyes.

Then came the question and the golden medal what is that for? Avi said its called Commendation Card, and why did you get. Avi was lost a little by the first question itself. She touched him Avi was totally lost in his thought and it took him a little while to come back to reality. He said i got it for a operation in Siachen. That was enough to excite Maya, she said operation what operation tell me about it please, initially Avi refused but Maya was persistent in her request and he agreed to tell her about it. It was about a year and a half back when i was posted in Siachen.

Peak Winters it was then, snow clad mountains, the men in uniform and foxes are all that could be found there. Everything was white, it looked just like heaven pure and eternal. The first thought that comes in your mind once you reach is just peace and wanting to be there for ever, but with the passing time you discover reality, living conditions aren't as great as you think. Sitting, guarding, sleeping, reading , eating ,writing are the only things that one can do there. Bathing is next to impossible so may be in two or three days we have sponge bath, walking bear feat can give you froze bite so one has to be very careful, and dressed all the time. Oxygen is scarce so you have to be careful not to over work there. Shaving is difficult if you cut then bleeding would be a problem. Ice has to be heated to drink and other daily stuff. So this is a shot glimpse of how life there is. We get supplies like ration, newspaper, letters with the help of the army and air force helicopter. Letters which everyone waited for, and newspapers no use as the news was already old by then as they would arrive late.

it was one such day when the weather god didn't look in a good mood. The air force helicopter Cheetah along with a pilot and co-pilot was to fly for our post to deliver some goods. Suddenly there was a big boom sound we all heard, everyone looking out for the source of the sound. There we saw the bird c cheetah , descending the speed at which it was descending was 10 times faster than the usual speed and we could see the fire in the tail and blades had stopped rotating. The chopper crashed to one of the hilly peak due to the bad weather and went and fell in a valley. Looking at the way it had crashed there was no scope t the pilot or co-pilot would have been alive.There was a cold wave that passed through everyone witnessing the crash. Everyone was numb for few seconds. By the time everyone regained there senses the copter was 150 feet down crashed and in bits and pieces in the deep valley.

Next two hours were busy working on for the rescue operation that had to be launched, how to reach the spot, how many people, material needed, everything was worked out. A troop of ten men was made. Who would go down. The troop was assisted by me and a senior officer who completed the operation. Reaching on the spot the sight wasn't a pleasant one crashed copter half burnt the two bodies inside burnt and black, unable to recognize who's who. Then reached a doctor who was also a part of the team, who checked out the two bodies and declared them dead, the bodies were tied with rope and sent up with great difficulty. The weather god i wish was kind and little cooperative that day but his non cooperation lead to a lot of trouble, of getting the team down in the valley and getting them back up, with the extreme weather conditions it was a tedious task. The bodies were further carried to the base and from there to there respective families for the last rites.The matter was reported to head quarter, and my name was refereed for the commendation card and this is what it is. With that Avi ended his story.

Maya was deep engrossed in Avi's story, her eyes were moist and there was a sense of pride she felt, her lips were sealed and she struggled to find words to speak. She was speechless for couple of minutes all she could do was hug him tight.

With that story the night ended, the next morning life was back to the routine and Maya was back to where she started from admiring the medals and ribbons on his uniform. The pride that she had standing n next to him couldn't be put better in words.

They lived happily ever after